Guys, Don’t write off the relationship just because she dumped you – Get Back together with your ex
Are you wondering, even though you were dumped, how to get your ex back? There’s always a chance. All is not lost.
Women often change their minds. A lot of times it is the woman who calls off the relationship, not the man. The good news is, though, that many, many times they’re open to re-establishing the relationship.
So, if you are wondering about how to get ex girlfriend back, then the answer is first of all, don’t give up and don’t assume that you can’t.
They might afterwards come to the conclusion that they made a bad decision and want to get together again.
Some of what you need to do is to figure out what went wrong in the first place and change it. If she was bored in your relationship, then there are things you could do to make sure she feels like shes getting the attention she needs.
You could figure out what things are interesting to her, and get interested in them yourself. If one of the things she didn’t like was that you were too needy, then you might need to give her a lot of space.
If you really want to get back together, then you will probably have to become the type of guy she wants to date. This doesn’t mean that you have to go crazy and lose who you are. It means that you’ll need to (when the time comes):
- Pay more attention to her. Women love it when you pay attention to them. In a good way, of course. Not in a creepy way. Just honestly pay attention to them.
- Be romantic, even if you aren’t. Buy her flowers, send her cards in the mail, get her jewelry, say romantic things. Women love romance.
- Listen to her without offering advice. She doesn’t want you to fix her problem(s). Just listen to her. Tell her you feel what she’s feeling, tell her you’re on her side, make her know that you ‘understand’. Most of the time thats what she really wants.
Anyway, these are things to do once you are back together, but what do you do now to get back together with ex?
Become the kind of guy she wants to date. Buy some new clothes. Begin exercising. Pay attention to the news and talk about things that will surprise her. Do things that might be out of character for you so that you can talk about things that may surprise her when you meet.
For instance, if she thinks all you care about is baseball, then tell her that you were thinking of riding horses some weekend and would she like to come along. [A good example of this might be that if she thinks all you care about is baseball, then surprise her by inviting her to ride horses or go to the opera. This will get her attention because she thinks all you care about is baseball. You’ve just begun to show her that there is more to you than meets the eye.
Here are some more ideas about how to ex back.
You might also try to date some popular girls. Popular girls date popular guys. If you are seeing an in-demand girl, she will come to think of you as an in-demand guy. Her whole concept of you will change.
She’ll see you as some kind of valuable thing that she threw away and maybe, just maybe, she was wrong.
When you want to get back together with ex, you need to realize that there is a new power relationship at play. You no longer belong to each other exclusively. Instead, you are two independent spheres rotating around the other.
Many guys don’t realize that this power shift has occurred. While they are down in the dumps about the break up, they don’t change their behavior pattern toward their ex. This is a big mistake.
When you want to get back together with ex, you will take advantage of the shift in power. You will woo her by changing the things that she doesn’t like about you or the relationship, become the in-demand guy that all girls want to date, and be a little bit unavailable to her.
If these things don’t work, she probably has moved on and you won’t have much hope of jump starting anything.
However, in almost all cases, because women are fickle creatures, you can usually get back together with ex.