Everyone can remember a time when we took the kids to some event or theme park that was supposed to be totally awesome. Then when the children get there and see that Mickey Mouse is a man in a suit and therefore the rides are about the same as the local Six Flags, an inescapable let down and discontentment sets in. And that is not fun for the elders on the trip home when all those expectancies did not come to pass when the children came face to face with fact which did not line up with their dreams and hopes.
But sometimes even adults can be guilty of letting dreams and images of a golden time ahead get the best of us. We often develop a mythology of how retirement will be when we get there and when that retired life essentially starts, there are some real, grounded adjustments that have to be made. So if you can know some of the hidden risks of retirement ahead, it is so miles better to go into retirement with your eyes open and have pragmatic expectancies.
There are 2 negative reactions to the sudden shift of lifestyle in retirement. They’re isolation and boredom. Even if you’re going to be home all of the time, there’s no question that after you stop going to an office or having regular responsibilities, you can frequently feel a sense of loss and grief because you miss the people, the regular human contact and the joys of being out and that may result in loneliness that will get pretty protracted.
For men especially the feeling of boredom can also set in pretty fast when the challenge of the work world goes away. In plenty of cases, men live for their jobs and when that world goes away, there is a sense of disorientation and without knowing what to do with themselves that is disconcerting for the family and for the retired man himself. You could have been looking forward to a more relaxed life only to find that this was the stress that makes you tick and without it, you’re feeling adrift in life with no direction or goals.
Both of these issues can be addressed by not letting your retirement life be to idle, at least not at first. You can fill your life up with volunteering, getting busy with family or by getting concerned socially with other retired people. One area of volunteering that can go a good distance to replace the gratification of the work place is to work with habitat for humanity to help to build homes for people who can’t afford a home another way. Both retired married partners can discover ways to pitch in and it can get you out with people doing things that are well-spent.
Give yourself time to get used to the idea of retirement and to the new way of life. It should be a faster lifestyle because your responsibilities are reduced and you’ve more time on your hands. Be aware that if you and your partner are all of a sudden around each other every day and each hour of the day, that is going to make new strains which can also qualify as a hidden danger of retirement. By being aware that this isn’t the fault of either partner but a natural reaction. The best reply is just to get out and do things separately and create that natural space you are both used to more often.
There’ll be a natural down time when you first retire and treat the first month like vacation. But dont stay on vacation. Let your ambition and eagerness for life find new outlets. It will be exciting and fun to see where it takes you and that is what retirement is all about.