Why Do Caregivers Feel So Guilty?
By admin on Apr 5, 2008 in Care
Finally, families taking care of Alzheimer’s relatives are speaking out- minus the guilt.
It’s about time. These are the issues we all need to be aware of, and that many of us have been suffering through quietly.
What are the emotional, physical, and financial strains of eldercare?
Why has everyone felt so guilty in the past discussing these frustrations?
More Boomers Taking Care of Their Parents is an article which gets straight to these points.
"Ray," who didn’t want to use his real name, tells how he came up with the solution to put his mother in assisted living. I have a very close friend who just went through the same ordeal. My advice is do the best you can and stop scolding yourself.
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By Carol D. O'Dell on Apr 6, 2008 | Reply
I’d like to think that with caregiving being int he news, that many people see there’s more than one way to give care and love-and still take care of yourself.
As a caregiver, I wanted to keep the promises I made to my mother–that I’d never “put her in one of those homes,” as she put it. But I learned that caring for a mother with Parkinson’s and Alzheimer’s, and being a mother to my own three daughters was more than anyone had bargained for.
Life–nor caregiving is as simple–or as noble as we first think it will be. It’s real families doing the best they can.
I think for me, I just wore guilt slap out. You can’t care give 24/7 and not begin to have some mercy for yourself and everyone involved.
Still, I’m grateful for the time we had. I learned a lot about myself, my mother and our relationship that I feel has made me appreciate life and family even more.
~Carol D. O”Dell
Author of Mothering Mother: A Daughter’s Humorous and Heartbreaking Memoir
available on Amazon
http://www.mothering-mother.com