It’s time for New Year’s resolutions again. Those of us who care give probably haven’t had that much time to think about making resolutions for another tough year of taking care of our aging parents or relatives, but here is a very good list from Senior Helpers in the Rio Rancho Observer.
The list includes taking time out to take care of ourselves.
This is an important point because it is so easy to overlook. We’re so busy caregiving for others we often don’t worry about ourselves. We need to be healthy to get it all done. Many of us are working 16 hours per day or longer. Sometimes we’re up and down during the long nights and we’re not as young as we used to be.
We need to snatch cat naps when we can and we need proper exercise. Taking a few minutes off for a “mini vacation” to the mall or eating out with friends is not being selfish. Taking your dog out for a walk is a good way to refresh. If we feel guilt, one of our resolutions should be to get over it.
Another resolution covered is to get support from family and friends. It’s okay to ask for help. I have practiced this myself during the last few months and it is a lifesaver. Not only have I discovered family members are willing to help but they want to. They can take a lot of the strain off of you even with the simplest of errands.
I have also been amazed with businesses which have also helped us. I will admit many of these are members of our church but we have a CPA and barber making house calls and they have been glad to do it.
We have even had a computer man to pick up the computer and bring it back after maintenance. The point here is to ask. You’d be surprised at the responses. But another important point is we live in an urban area and we are close to their homes and businesses. That certainly helps.
I have to mention one of the biggest headaches care givers face is car problems. We have relied on the same business for over 30 years, which is McDuffy Goodyear. They helped me with a major car scare last summer, even giving me a ride home after they discovered my car was too dangerous to drive.
(I had decided to stop by their shop suddenly when I didn’t like the way the car was responding. I had been too busy to realize I had a huge brake problem.)
Building up your network of outside helpers is a must. I can’t stress that enough.
Here’s the rest of the list from Senior Helpers.
Tags: Care, Family, Money