Comments on: Caregiving Guilt: What Is It? http://agingparentsauthority.com/care/caregiving-guilt-what-is-it/ The premier resource for anyone taking care of the elderly. Sun, 19 Dec 2010 19:03:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: admin http://agingparentsauthority.com/care/caregiving-guilt-what-is-it/comment-page-1/#comment-990 admin Wed, 25 Feb 2009 22:43:49 +0000 http://agingparentsauthority.com/?p=1227#comment-990 Liz, thank you for this thought about guilt. Too many of us feel too guilty about the way we care give. We also feel guilty about thinking ahead toward the end. Our aging parents will not be with us forever and that's a part of life. It a fact. We just need to do what we can for them now and deal with the future as it arrives. All we can really do is live in day tight compartments. Liz, thank you for this thought about guilt.
Too many of us feel too guilty about the way we care give. We also feel guilty about thinking ahead toward the end.
Our aging parents will not be with us forever and that’s a part of life. It a fact.
We just need to do what we can for them now and deal with the future as it arrives. All we can really do is live in day tight compartments.

]]> By: Liz http://agingparentsauthority.com/care/caregiving-guilt-what-is-it/comment-page-1/#comment-989 Liz Mon, 23 Feb 2009 00:12:29 +0000 http://agingparentsauthority.com/?p=1227#comment-989 I had dinner with some high school friends the other night. One's dad had just died, so of course we were talking about our aging parents. One friend asked me, 'will you be sorry when your mother-in-law dies?" NO! Good grief, she's 97. That started a whole discussion on aging parents, a "good" age to die, at what age can we "accept" death, etc. Very good conversation, and of course we covered guilt as well. I had just read this great book about <a href="http://www.escapingtoxicguilt.com/" rel="nofollow"> escaping guilt</a> called "Escaping Toxic Guilt." Susan Carrell can see into my soul, is all I can say. It talks about common guilt-inducing situations -- and aging parents are right there, we all know. It helps us understand our various sources of guilt (parents, kids, relationships, etc.) and how to get out from under it by understanding it. It won't change the situation with your parents. But it will change how you think. I had dinner with some high school friends the other night. One’s dad had just died, so of course we were talking about our aging parents. One friend asked me, ‘will you be sorry when your mother-in-law dies?” NO! Good grief, she’s 97. That started a whole discussion on aging parents, a “good” age to die, at what age can we “accept” death, etc. Very good conversation, and of course we covered guilt as well. I had just read this great book about escaping guilt called “Escaping Toxic Guilt.” Susan Carrell can see into my soul, is all I can say. It talks about common guilt-inducing situations — and aging parents are right there, we all know. It helps us understand our various sources of guilt (parents, kids, relationships, etc.) and how to get out from under it by understanding it.

It won’t change the situation with your parents. But it will change how you think.

]]> By: admin http://agingparentsauthority.com/care/caregiving-guilt-what-is-it/comment-page-1/#comment-916 admin Thu, 12 Feb 2009 02:39:00 +0000 http://agingparentsauthority.com/?p=1227#comment-916 Cathy, asking for help is a very good point. We need to be able to do that, and we shouldn't feel guilty. -Alice Cathy, asking for help is a very good point.
We need to be able to do that, and we shouldn’t feel guilty.
-Alice

]]> By: Cathy Warren http://agingparentsauthority.com/care/caregiving-guilt-what-is-it/comment-page-1/#comment-907 Cathy Warren Tue, 10 Feb 2009 02:15:21 +0000 http://agingparentsauthority.com/?p=1227#comment-907 To all caregivers out there, "Hang in there"! What you are doing is so precious. You will be able to look back and say you did a wonderful thing for someone you love. No regrets. Ask for help and research available services to help ease the responsibility. Don't feel guilty. If the caregiver is stressed and tired your loved one will also feel it. It is OK to get help from family, friends and healthcare services. Don't let the stituation get out of hand. Ease that guilt, just ask for help. Cathy Warren www.Over60exchange.com To all caregivers out there, “Hang in there”!
What you are doing is so precious. You will be able to look back and say you did a wonderful thing for someone you love. No regrets. Ask for help and research available services to help ease the responsibility. Don’t feel guilty. If the caregiver is stressed and tired your loved one will also feel it. It is OK to get help from family, friends and healthcare services. Don’t let the stituation get out of hand. Ease that guilt, just ask for help.

Cathy Warren
http://www.Over60exchange.com

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